Men ogle up to ten women everyday, researchers have revealed. They spend an average of 43 minutes admiring girls- which adds up to a year in a lifetime… Women ogle up to six men for 20 minutes a day- or six months of their lives… Most women said it was a fella’s sexy eyes that first drew their gaze. With men it was a girl’s figure.
The sun, august 4, 2009
For some reason, this whole thing about infidelity, the roving eye, etc seems to be a very popular subject of late. I've seen so many articles about this in the ‘what’s hot’ section, it makes me wonder if it's some kind of that "time of the year" thing with ‘The sun’ also helping in and giving in the necessary inputs from researchers as far as the roving eye is concerned.
It’s a commonly known fact that commitment doesn't stop one from craving for eye candy, but there is a difference between casting a passing glance and staring downright disrespectfully. Men will always check out other women just as women will sneak a glance at other men discreetly. Even with the most gorgeous woman on his arm the man is bound to gawk at the other one walking past them, sometimes even in the complete knowledge of the former. So, if you think you are committed and don’t stand a chance of being a victim of your guy’s roving eye—think again. He could be sitting in his cubicle, standing with his friends in the cafeteria, studying in his class at college or just out grocery shopping, all the while checking out that ‘oh so hot’ girl’s ‘oh so hot’ butt while you sit here reading this piece of trash about his roving eye.
But if it's so prevalent and does not qualify as a crime punishable by law (yet, but can definitely hope for a gynocratic society) what's the reason for the brouhaha. The problem is that while most of us, women, can deal with the roving male eye, they often find it difficult to deal with the emotional implications of the knowledge that their guy is lusting after someone else. Accept it, most men have a roving eye and can't seem to help themselves, and the sooner you accept it the less it is going to hurt you.
The researchers talked about in ‘The sun’ blame the chromosomal-makeup in men for this problem, which has had women in a fix since the antediluvian age. Also, the most comforting detail of the whole research was that roving eye in men doesn’t mean that the entire race is full of suck-up cheaters and Casanovas in the plain ‘your guy’ garb. So, if its just the gene set up of our fellow brawny race which is to blame, we being the fairer and certainly the peacemaking race of the two, can offer a hand and set up a few norms to support our peaceful co-existence.
Like for instance, a normal woman would absolutely detest her guy for checking out the hot female next to them while he is walking with her. So, as long as the men don’t work up their eyes in the presence of the women in their lives and don’t brag about their ogling habits it stands ok. What and how they exercise their fundamental rights and freedom in person is not our business but in our presence it becomes slightly disconcerting and eh…irritating.
Thus, I’ve realized that the literal roving eye is more misdemeanor than felony. It doesn't bother me anymore as long as the once-over is quick and doesn't linger or keep repeating itself.
At a time when we can't read the news without stumbling into men who cheat on their wives with their "soul mates," or cheat with prostitutes, or may have fathered another woman's child, or who tried to buy their mistress' silence, what's a little looking? Even the most popular search engine goes by ‘go ogle’…doesn’t it? :)
